Afraid that you’re not girlfriend material?
Is it becoming a trend that men only seem to be interested in you for a short period of time?
Don’t worry, many people have these worries from time to time. It’s completely normal.
But if you think that it might have something to do with your personality, then it’s easy to fix. You just need to know a little bit about male psychology and what they look for in a female.
In this article, I’ll talk about 12 traits that men find really attractive in a woman
We have a lot to cover so let’s get started.
1. Sexy femininity
Women tend to like strong, masculine men, and in the same vein, men like sexy, feminine women.
But in today’s society, our definition of femininity can get a little fuzzy. Many of us misinterpret femininity as being passive and a pushover.
This couldn’t be further from the truth.
The fact is, despite the shift in roles between men and women, one thing remains true:
The most important factor that attracts men to women is femininity.
Being feminine is all about owning your sexual power.
Every guy wants to be with a girl who has that powerful feminine look about her: you know, the look that could stop a train.
When she walks in the room with confidence and everyone looks – guys love that.
Maybe it’s not a look, maybe it’s an outfit, or your smile, or your hair.
But there’s some feature about you that would make a guy stop and stare.
Find out what it is and find a way to highlight it. It’ll forever be the story he tells:
“I couldn’t help myself. When she walked into the room, I just stared.”
And isn’t that the story you want to be told about you too?
The bottom line is this:
It’s about walking, sitting, talking, and moving with sexy confidence.
It’s about flirting with that seductive, charming feminine beauty.
A woman who understands the power of her femininity knows she is of high value doesn’t need a man to take care of her and is confident in who she truly is.
That’s the kind of feminine female a man loves.
2. She triggers his hero instinct
There’s actually a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology that’s getting a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of the riddle about why men fall in love — and who they fall in love with.
The theory claims that men want to be your hero. That they want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and provide and protect her.
This is deeply rooted in male biology. People are calling it the hero instinct.
If you’ve spent any time with a man, you’ll instantly realize that this all makes a lot of sense. Men come in all shapes and sizes, but the desire to be there for the woman we care about is common to us all.
The simple truth is that your man doesn’t necessarily want to be an action hero. But he does have a biological urge to be your hero.
The main takeaway of the hero instinct is this: Instead of making your guy feel unessential, you need to make him feel wanted and needed.
This doesn’t mean women need to come across as weak. Although you may not need a hero, you do want a man who feels like one.
He wants to have your back. He wants to be your rock. You just need to let him be this once in a while.
3. A sense of humor
No matter who you are and what sex you’re interested in, everybody is attracted to a person who can make them laugh.
It’s no different for men.
Research has even found that men like women who laugh at their jokes and can make them laugh, too.
This doesn’t just go for telling funny jokes. After all, we’re not all naturally witty.
But it’s about people who can laugh along together.
When you can’t help but laugh in synchronicity, spending time together becomes exciting, positive, and fun.
However, what men don’t like is when women constantly use humor that makes fun of them.
So, if you can help it, try not to make jokes by teasing him. You might have the opposite effect of turning him off.
You want to make him laugh, not reduce his self-confidence!
4. Confidence is a must
Oh, and you must be confident.
You don’t have to be cocky, but you have to know yourself, your body, and what you want.
It’s easy for guys to be a part of your life when you have it together.
He wants you to want him but not need him. There’s a difference. It’s called being clingy.
So yes, the order just keeps getting taller, but nobody said dating was easy.
And yes, you can be confident, funny, pretty, girly, and independent all in the same day.
The bottom line is this:
Any person becomes more attractive when they’re secure in their own skin.
These kinds of people are less sensitive, not as jealous, and they’re more comfortable to be around.
In short, there’s less toxicity when a person is accepting of themselves.
When you’re happy with who you are, people around you become happy as well.
Being confident in who you are will work for you in more ways than one.
I spoke about the confident feminine energy that men can’t get enough of above.
An independent, strong woman who is also embracing her feminity is the definition of sexy.
Despite what society may tell you, men actually want to be challenged. They want a female who isn’t afraid to tell it how it is and risk offending whoever comes into their path.
If you really want to get the attention of a man, be confident, and embrace who you are. You’ll instantly become more attractive. I can guarantee it.
5. Be adventurous
Relationships are meant to be fun. We don’t get involved in one to have the same old, boring routine over and over again.
This is particularly the case when it comes to men. They love the excitement and trying new things.
There are 2 different ways to be more adventurous:
1. Doing new activities. Go hiking on the weekend. Go to this favorite sporting event. Be open to anything he might be interested in and try new things.
2. Be adventurous in everyday life. When you go grocery shopping, have fun. Bring a bit of life to the situation. Be open to new situations. Adding a bit of excitement and flair to your daily life will improve any relationship.
If you tend to avoid things like being outside or driving past the mall on a Saturday afternoon, you might want to broaden your horizons to find new adventures.
Plus, the bonus here is that you’ll be so busy learning new things you’ll forget all about not having a date.
And the other bonus is that when you’re too busy to care about finding a date, you almost always find a date.
Guys love girls who are out there doing their thing. It all goes back to the confident, feminine requirements they look for in women.
6. Show your beautiful smile
There’s no getting around it. Men absolutely love a beautiful, sparkling smile.
You might think that putting on long eyelashes or big red lipstick will get you the attention of a guy, but actually a smile will do more than they could put together.
When you have a big, happy smile, not only does it show your confidence, but it makes you appear happy, friendly, and open.
We just spoke about how men love excitement, well, a big, bright smile gives them that excitement that they crave.
There’s a reason research studies have found that humans are most attractive when they’re smiling.
Now obviously there’s not much you can do to change your smile and how it looks, but what you can do is make sure you are smiling as much you can.
A beautiful smile can do wonders. You just need to make sure you’re using it.
7. Be caring
Women are naturally more caring and empathic, so it’s time to use that to your advantage.
Research has found that men find a kind, caring side as an important quality in a female.
Men are attracted to a woman who is able to take care of them and look after them when sh*t hits the fan in their life, even when he’s emotionally unavailable.
Women are great listeners, and if you can bring out the emotional and sensitive side in him by making him feel comfortable, your connection will spark like a lightning strike.
But it’s not just about how you treat your man, but also how you treat his friends and family. Be nice and friendly to them, too.
Men like a woman are lovely and polite to everyone they meet. It means that he’ll be happy to show you off when the time comes for it.
Now if you’re on your first-date, then you need to be aware of how you come across. Some women can have that natural resting b*tch face that can turn off some men.
If that’s the case, then you might want to work on smiling more. That will make you appear more open, friendly, and likable.
Make sure you listen and ask for insightful connections. Once he feels comfortable, he’ll start seeing your caring side and will understand that he can trust you when he wants to release his emotions.
8. Be playful and have fun
Who doesn’t love a funny person?
You’re probably wishing for a funny boyfriend right now, but don’t leave all the laughs up to him.
If your jokes have been met with some crickets in the past, consider boning up on your sense of humor and make the effort to be funny.
Guys like that. They want a girl who can hang out with their friends and laugh and take a joke.
It’s a tall order, isn’t it? Look like a girl, laugh like a guy. No wonder women give up on dating.
But the truth is this:
Nobody wants to be with someone who is extremely serious all the time. That can get tiring and uncomfortable.
It’s time to bring out that laid-back, playful, and fun side to you. Don’t be afraid of what other people think of you.
Laugh at yourself, make jokes, laugh at him, and enjoy your time together.
Most men are attracted to a more youthful woman but I don’t mean youthfulness based on age. I mean youthfulness based on attitude.
Furthermore, it’s not just about having more fun but making him feel comfortable and calm with you.
Isn’t it more relaxing to hang around someone who doesn’t take everything so seriously?
I think it is. And he will too.
Don’t worry if you think you’re no fun. It’s just an attitude quality you need to focus on bringing out more.
After all, we all have a silly side to us!
9. Listen to him
Guys like a girl that makes an effort to listen to him.
If he is thinking about having you as his girlfriend, then he needs to know that you’re willing to listen.
Well, there will be days when all he wants to do is come home to you and tell you about the horrible day he’s been having.
Remember the tough guy act is just for show. Underneath that facade is a human being needing a companion who will listen to his stories.
The simple truth is that guys can struggle to process and understand their feelings. Women are more in touch with their emotions.
After all, male and female brains are biologically different. The limbic system is the emotional processing center of the brain and it’s much larger in the female brain than in a man’s.
This means it’s up to women to really listen to men and make an effort to understand how they’re feeling.
I learned this from relationship guru Michael Fiore. He’s one of the world’s leading experts on male psychology and what men want from relationships.
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10. Be intelligent
Your mind is a precious thing, and improving your mental capacity and mental sharpness is a quality that many people find sexy.
The days of people looking down on bookworms are over (and if they’re not, then do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t find intelligence sexy?); these days, it’s all about putting yourself out as the perfect, complete package.
Show people that you have interests, that you like learning new things.
Explore parts of the world that have nothing to do with sexiness or romance or dating, and it will show your potential partners that you are someone who is much deeper than they realize.
Intelligence generally comes with passion, and displaying that passion out for the world to see is always sexy.
11. Get your own life and be your own person.
Guys want a girl who has her own life, her own interests, her own goals, and who lives by her own rules.
Guys don’t want girls who are needy, clingy, drama queens, and always in the middle of some chaotic episode.
In other words, guys want girls who have got their lives together and who can be their own person.
If you want to get a date with a quality man, you first need to have a quality life of your own.
Like attracts like so if you find yourself dating dull, boring, and uninteresting people all the time, consider what you’re putting out there to attract that.
In fact, in one study, questionnaires were given to 978 participants to determine whether the way one perceives themself is anyway related to the attributes they value in people they date.
It was found that people look to date those whose attributes closely resemble their own.
According to psychologist Maria. T Cohen, this means that “people searching for mates should be encouraged to look for those similar to themselves, as this may lead to relationships that are both satisfying and stable.”
Sure, it’s not what you were hoping for from an advice column, but it’s the truth.
If you want a guy who has his act together, make sure you have yours under control.
12. Have your own routine and your own friends
If your entire schedule is open all the time, he won’t like that.
There is a reason our society has expressions like “playing hard to get”, “you don’t know what you got ’till t’s gone” and “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
Making something appear scarce (like your available time) or difficult to obtain can make it more desirable.
Have your own routine with your own responsibilities.
Look, as much as you might want to be with him all the time, you should make your available affection somewhat scarce, at least in the beginning.
Guys like it when girls are sometimes unavailable to them.
It means they can still live a life they want and have you too. Sure, sounds selfish, but it’s what they want.
This is also why it’s also important to have your own friends.
If you don’t have at least one grown-up friend when you go looking for a date, get one.
Get a friend before you get a boyfriend.
You want to have someone in your life that isn’t romantically linked to you because no matter how hard you try to make sure your happiness is not wrapped up in this dude, it will be.
So it’s important to have someone who isn’t your boyfriend to provide entertainment, advice, fun, and love.
If you have your own friends, you don’t need to borrow his.