Most of us date because we’re trying to find that one true love.
The awkward, clumsy first dates? Those are just an added bonus. The happily ever after? That’s our endgame. As a result, it’s natural to want to know love’s ETA.
So, if you’re a woman out there dating a new guy, you’re probably hoping there are some undeniable signs that a man is falling in love with you so you can stop feeling impatient and relax.
What are the signs that a man is falling in love with you? First things first: if you’re actively searching for clues he loves you, you’re probably coming from a place of anxiety.
You know how you feel, and you want to know how he feels, too. You don’t want to invest your time or risk your heart if the two of you aren’t on the same page about where things are going between you. You’ll be able to know by the way he looks at you and how he really sees you and treats you like his person.
Certain qualities make a man fall in love with a woman including her being unapologetically herself, being honest and trustworthy, and the ability to push each other to be better people and inspiring each other.
Other qualities can include physical features that a man loves about you, however, what makes him fall for you is how deep your emotional connection can get and how well the two of you know each other and can be vulnerable with each other.
How quickly do men fall in love? Surprisingly, studies have found that men fall in love a bit faster than women.
According to a 2013 study by YouGov for eHarmony, men on average take 88 days or three months to say the words I love you to their partner. However, women on average take 134 days or four and a half months to say the L-word.
Know this: An emotion as powerful as love will always find a way to express itself. It will always find a way out.
So, if you’re wondering, “Does he love me?” there are ways love begins to show itself in the connection you share, so pay close attention.
Here are 15 signs a man is falling in love with you so you know how a man acts when he’s falling in love.
1. He’s in awe of your uniqueness.
This is part of the honeymoon phase. The chemical reactions caused in our minds allow us to drop judgment and only see the best in our partner. We like everything — their quirks, their flaws, even their snoring sounds like a symphony.
When a man is falling in love with you, he accepts your flaws unconditionally. Even the things you may be insecure about? Yep, he finds those fascinating. He encourages you to accept yourself and actively tries to merge himself with you.
He may do this by taking up your interests or hobbies, he may look at you a certain way, and he starts to see you in ways that you might never have seen yourself.
2. There’s an emotional fragility to him.
Among the signs that he’s falling in love with you is emotional fragility. This isn’t a great experience for men — it invokes vulnerability, a feeling men don’t like to feel.
When he’s with you, this may mean he’s stressed out or triggered easily and he’s not focusing on his mental health. He may be clingy, jealous, or paranoid that you’re going to leave him.
This doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong — it means that he’s struggling to regulate his emotions. Sometimes even body language can’t help to pay attention to because he could be so nervous he’s throwing it off.
Not all men exhibit this sign, but many do. It’s typically most prevalent in men who have lower than average self-esteem. This leaves them questioning their self-worth and wondering why a girl like you is with a guy like him.
3. There’s a deep and wide connection forming in your relationship.
Of course, love also involves connection — a deep and wide connection. This often manifests as multiple places and categories in his life that he allows you to see more of and be a part of. He might introduce you to his friends or co-workers.
He may show you off to his family. He might bring you to the activities and passions that he finds interesting — he may ask you to join him in a hike or in a pottery class. He may take you to a baseball game or ask for your input in his fantasy football draft.
Men integrate women into their lives when they see the potential of a long-term relationship.
With the above in mind, two additional important elements are awareness and consideration.
4. He’s more present with you.
When a man starts to really be with you — he focuses on you, he does things for you without you asking, he gives you a kiss out of the blue — there’s a good chance he’s starting to fall in love.
An uptick in his presence means an uptick in your relationship status. Men don’t invest in women they aren’t interested in. And they don’t fall into the role of provider or caretaker for women they don’t see in their future.
5. He genuinely wants to spend time with you.
A man who is in love with you will never get sick of your company and he will always be happy the times where the two of you get to hang out.
Once he’s with you, he doesn’t want to rush anything and prefers just being with you all night or all day. He never has a reason to leave or end your time together quickly.
He will take his time with you and as the two of you spend more time together you will realize if he’s the one wanting to reach out to you asking to hang out and let him make the moves as well so it’s not just you all the time. If you notice he is making more of the moves then that’s a good sign.
6. He seems nervous sometimes with you.
This can be an obvious sign that a guy is falling in love with you if he seems a little shy or nervous later on after the two of you have spent a lot of time together because maybe he’s nervous to say the words he knows that he’s feeling.
Make him feel super comfortable and if you are sensing that he’s nervous, reassure him by letting him know he can tell you anything.
7. He’s introduced his friends to you and wants to meet yours.
This sign is a great step as getting to know his friends can give you the reassurance that he wants you to be a part of his life and that this relationship means something to him if he’s telling his friends all about you.
If his friends make an effort to include you in things too then that’s a good sign that they support you as well and that they approve of you which matters to him if he’s in love with you.
8. He talks about the future with you.
If your boyfriend is talking to you about his future plans in front of you and then asks you what you think about that, then that’s a good sign that he’s ready to move forward with you and let you know that he loves you.
He could also be testing you by bringing up the topic of the future in order to feel if you feel the same way as well. If they are plans that he might do then maybe he’s planning for them to include you as well. You don’t need a relationship coach to tell you about that as this sign is kind of obvious.
9. He’s not afraid to be himself around you.
If your partner is totally himself around you, which includes him either geeking out about something he loves then that could mean he’s in love with you.
If he’s not afraid of having an in-depth conversation with you about each other’s interests and likes and he’s not afraid to tell you anything then that’s a great sign that he’s totally comfortable with you.
He knows he can be himself around you just like how he is around friends and family because he loves you.
10. He doesn’t play games with you.
If a guy is in love with you he won’t put you through the hoops and make you question or worry all the time because he makes it so easy for you.