The age of 30 years is regarded as the prime age for ascribing the term ‘maturity’ to an individual. Once you clock 30 years, society already regards you as mature and responsible, and whether you like it or not you must live up to that name.
There are many things you must accomplish before you clock that golden age. For Nigerians, peculiar socio-cultural traditions and expectations place pressure on people to perform in certain areas of their lives.
The list presented here shows the top ten things that you must do before you clock 30 years. While this list is by no means exhaustive, it presents a consensus perspective on the matter. Feel free to add a few other things you think are necessary in the comments section below.
1. Get your own Apartment
At 30 years of age, the last thing you want for yourself is to be squatting from friend to friend, or worse still, to still be living with your parents. It is far from ideal, and it shows that you are not matured enough to face the realities of life. By age 30, you should have gotten your own place to stay. Even if it is a one room apartment, it is respectable enough than for you to still be inhabiting your parents’ big house.
2. Get your own source of income
When you were younger, you could easily ask for money from your friends, family and even people of the opposite sex. However, at age 30, that is no longer a honourable thing to do. Get your own source of income, be it a business, a job or something legitimate.
3. Get an investment
At the age of 30, you should begin to think about your long-term future. What better time to plan for an investment than now? There are many investment options today; get one and start immediately.
4. Discover Your Purpose
Everyone has a purpose uniquely designed by God for actualization on Earth. Your purpose is the reason for your existence. It is the reason why you were gifted with all the natural abilities that you possess. At thirty, if you have not discovered your purpose, you risk living a life void of the sense of fulfillment.
5. Travel Abroad At Least Once
At age 30, you must begin to think globally. Not only should you expose your mind to the things that are happening in other climes, but you must also try to travel abroad at least once. This expands your thinking, because if you do not travel out of your country you will think that the only place where people exist is in your own community and country!
6. Find Love
At age thirty, please find love. Or better still, allow love to find you. Life is incomplete without love, and we all have an innate desire to love and be loved by someone other than ourselves.
7.Get Another Degree
At age thirty, your career pursuit should be taking shape and gaining good ground. What better way to augment this, than to get a second degree, or some form of additional professional qualification for your career?
8. Find out your gifts and abilities
God does not do things for fun. You were created and born with diverse natural gifts and abilities, but they do not come with labels or prescription sheets. It is your duty to discover them and take advantage of them to solve problems in our world.
9. If possible, Get Married
This is a no-brainer. If you are economically-independent, and you have your own apartment, why not get married to the love of your life while you are still young and kicking? Many career ladies say no to the proposals of many good men while they are young because of their career pursuit, only to turn around and start looking for men to marry them when they are getting old. Just get married to someone you love and build a future with while you are young!
Life is not hard.
10. Control Your Emotions
At age 30, if you have not learnt how to master your emotions and temper, you are in big trouble for the rest of your life.
The age of 30 is the prime age for maturity, responsibility and commitment. The ten things listed here are just a drop in the bucket of all that you need to achieve.
11. Try to know more about your family history.
You have always been busy with yourself till now, but now it’s time to turn back and dig into the past. Know about your family history – ask your parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. You might just learn about things that you never knew, about the places where your great-grandparents had lived, where your grandparents grew up, whether you have links with people in a different country – it’ll be an interesting journey if you choose to travel to all those places where your folks have once lived and spend a considerable period of their life. Knowing your family history is important for you – otherwise how will you pass it on the next gen? Also give you valuable thinking time, to discover your passion and to walk down the unknown trails with strangers.
12. Take the risk and try the adventure sport you’ve always thought to avoid.
Shed your fears and feel the adrenaline rush. Whether it is bungee jumping, diving with the sharks or skydiving – go for it! Get outside, take the leap, put yourself in the hands of those trained professionals, and experience that exhilarating feeling of being so close to staring death in the face. Life will seem to be much prettier post this experience and you’ll have amazing stories to share with your kids – about your fears and how you overcame them!
13. Get rid of your bad habits.
Yes, I’m serious – before you hit the 30s, it’s important to let go of the bad habits. Whether it’s a poor sleep cycle that you’ve acquired over the years, or it’s your excessive smoking tendency – try to bring some good changes in life by stepping into a healthier way of living. For some people, lying even when it isn’t necessary is a bad habit, while few people just want to poke their nose in other’s business! In case you too have a bad habit and you don’t quit those now, the struggle might get more difficult in the days ahead.
14. Get involved in a fitness regime.
People who are fit in their later life, are usually the ones who made wiser choices during their teens and twenties! No one’s asking you to hit the gym for sure, but you can do little things on your own. Cut down those extra calories that you’ve been consuming, stop eating out much and try to restrict yourself to a healthier diet on most of the days (occasional indulgence is fine!), go for a run every day without finding excuses and exercise regularly. Doing yoga will also help you in several ways. All these will not only help you in shedding some kilos now but also help you to look younger in the days ahead.
15. Learn a foreign language.
Imagine how fancy it would be if you can speak French or Spanish fluently! Learning a new language is always a good thing, and it’ll surely make you a more charming person. Knowing a different language will also familiarize you with the different cultures associated with that particular language, open several doors for you to explore and converse with people speaking that language and eventually, it’ll make you a more open-minded person. The older you get, the more difficult it’ll become to pick up a foreign language – so that the oath of learning it before you turn 30!
16. Splurge on something expensive, that you’ve always desired.
You are about to end your 20s, and you have a decent job fetching you a stable income – so, don’t you think you deserve to gift yourself something expensive? Of course, you do! Buy that Rolex watch or Gucci bag that you’ve been eyeing for long, or just go ahead and spend on that latest iPhone which you think you can’t afford! Go for an expensive dinner date with your partner and relax at a 5-star spa, because you deserve it. The money will keep coming and going, so you shouldn’t box up your desires..
17. Stop holding grudges.
You’ve grown up enough to stop holding on to past grievances and understand that they are simply overrated. There’s no point in sticking on to something that has happened years ago and feeling low about it. You don’t need that negativity in life, and it’s better to set those cold feelings aside. Try and sort your differences with the other person and let go of something that’s not required in life.
18. Learn to say ‘Sorry’.
Apologizing is an art and not all can master it. However, it’s a good practice to know how to say ‘sorry’ and make up for something wrong that you’ve done. It’s often hard to admit that you are wrong, but people will respect you more if you can accept your faults. Saying the simple 5 letter word might actually seem to be difficult if you hold onto your ego and self-esteem, but once you say it, you’ll see that things will melt and become beautiful.
19. Make a reading list for yourself.
Having a proper reading habit will take you a long way, and make sure you finish reading all those books on your bucket list before you hit your 30s. Reading has several benefits like boosting your imagination, improving your communication skills, keeping your brain sharp and it’ll also help you learn about new things and become a more knowledgeable person. Get a Goodreads account and stick to it in the days ahead.
20. Binge watch all popular series that you’ve avoided all these while.
Starting from ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’ to ‘Big Bang Theory’ and ‘Breaking Bad’ to ‘Game of Thrones’, you’ve avoided watching all these because you wanted to stay out of the crowd, but they aren’t that bad as well! If not for anything else, watch them for the sake of getting yourself accustomed to their storyline, so that the next time another Season comes up, you won’t have to take a backseat while others show their excitement! And trust me when I say this, you’ll actually start liking them after a while!
21. Get inked!
Permanence might be a scary thought, and you are skeptical about how you’ll change over the years. But getting inked has a charm of its own. Make sure that it’s something which actually represents who you are at this point in your life, particularly if you’re prone to regret. Make up your mind, do your research well, find a good tattoo artist and go for it. If you don’t try it, how will you know about the magic it creates!
22. Learn to get organized.
While some people take this to a completely different level and get obsessed about it, I’m just asking you to free yourself from the mess that you are, and start organizing a bit. Putting an effort and working on your organizational skills in your 20s will pay off later in life since it’ll reduce your stress levels and save you a whole lot of time and money.
23. Go to the stadium and watch the World Cup Tournament of your favorite sport.
Whether you love cricket or football, for once in life, hit the stadium and watch a live match. Feel the energy that’s in the air, add your voice to the shout of the spectators, bite your nails while watching your favorite team score more and it’ll surely turn out to be one of the best memories of your life. You can surely do it later in life as well, but it’s gonna be more fun if you do it now, before turning 30!
24. Find that one friend who’ll stick to you, no matter what.
You have nearly 700 friends on Facebook who never fail to hit the ‘Like’ button as soon as you put up a post. But at midnight, when you are in a dire need of something, you don’t know whom to call for help! Guess that’s not the desired situation in which you’d like to be trapped. Hence, now is the time to find that one friend, who’ll just be there, without asking ‘why’ and ‘what’ – and extend the helping hand whenever you need.
25. Develop your taste for alcohol.
You’ve had enough beer since your college days! Now is the time to become a connoisseur. Before you hit your 30s, start developing your taste for good alcohol. Whether it’s Single Malt or Bourbon, Sauvignon Blanc or Pinot Grigio – shift your taste and start savoring whiskey or wine.
26. Stop having regrets for the things you missed.
Realizing that you’ve made a huge mistake by not taking up an amazing job offer abroad might seem like the end of the world, but it’s not. As you’ll grow older and wiser, you’ll understand that these things are better to be flipped as old pages and move on. People might keep reminding you of the things that ‘you could have done’ and the things that ‘you just skipped out carelessly’ – but for your own good – stop having regrets for things that never happened. Learn the truth that they weren’t ever meant for you!
27. Learn to cook a proper meal.
Surprise your friends and family with your cooking skills! Enough of instant noodles and sandwiches – before you hit the 30s, learn how to cook a proper meal. You don’t have to attend cookery classes for that, YouTube can help you out in this journey. Throw a surprise dinner for your loved ones, and present your culinary skills in front of everyone. Not only will they be proud of you, but knowing how to cook will help you for better survival in your life ahead. Also, cooking acts as a major stressbuster!
28. Start writing about the good things in life.
You don’t have to be a skillful author for this! The crux of this act is to jot down whatever good is happening in your life so that you learn to appreciate them and be grateful for everything. Most of us often miss out little things in the hustle and bustle of our daily routine. But if they are all written down at one place, then we’ll have a chance of turning the pages someday, to relive the goodness that’s present now, at this moment.
29. Strengthen your political awareness.
Now that you are grown up enough, it’s time that you should be a responsible citizen and brush up your political awareness. Get into the habit of reading the newspaper and follow the news daily, know about what’s happening in your country and abroad. Build your own perspective rather than following others’ opinions blindly. Vote for the candidate whom you think to be the right one. Take part in the political discussions and put up your opinion.
30. Pay all your credit card debts.
For sure, you don’t want to step into your 30s with the financial burden of the 20s! Debt is a downer and it’ll keep creating stress that you don’t need as a weight choking you and holding you back from the great opportunities in life. As you still have time in hand, fix all the debts and clear everything – have a clean slate while moving ahead to the next decade.
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