Psychologically, negative thoughts are detrimental to health and general well-being. Often times, negative thoughts usually lead to suicidal tendencies. Although every one of us may experience it due to disappointment from friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers. The ideal thing is to replace negative thoughts with some motivations or inspiring music as soon as it comes to our minds.
Many of us have problems with negative thoughts playing on the channel of our minds, but if you’re engaging in it consistently, and you believe it, it could be eroding your sense of self-esteem. Here are a few beliefs that indicate you may need to switch the station:
- I’m a loser
- I’m not good enough
- I don’t deserve….
- No one likes me
- I suck at relationships
- I’m a failure
Negative thoughts often conjure bad feelings and hook you into believing that you are worthless. In short, it brings your focus to your failures, and that gets you nowhere.
What can you do?
Here are some suggestions:
1. Focus on what you can do NOW, not the past!
Self-talk is so subtle that we often don’t notice its effect on our mood and belief systems—as previously noted, one song can conjure up an entire series of thoughts and memories. Key things to notice are “if only or “what if” statements: the former keep you stuck in the past with regret, while the latter keeps you fearful of the future. There is nothing you can do about the past, and the future isn’t here yet, so stay in the present moment.
2. Visualize thing on the positive side
Three scoops of ice cream: chocolate, vanilla, strawberry. Fresh crushed pineapple and strawberries, warm luscious hot fudge. Ripe sweet banana. Fresh whipped cream and juicy red cherry. Get the drift? By now, you’re not only thinking of the banana split, but you can also taste it. If we want to change the negative tapes playing in our heads, we have to visualize ourselves positively—that means seeing yourself non-judgmentally. Picture accepting yourself. How would that look? Draw a picture in your mind and expand on it.
3. Build positive thoughts, positive actions will then follow
Whatever you believe, you’ll experience more of, and you’ll also find yourself behaving in ways that are congruent with your beliefs. So, start believing the best about yourself: act as if you believe that you’re a valuable and worthy person.
4. Recognize and set boundaries to the triggers of negative thoughts
Triggers are anything that can start the old tapes playing. If a certain person is a trigger for you, set boundaries with them.
5. Develop positive statements to counter negative thoughts
Instead of always putting yourself down in your head, think of some things you actually like about yourself. What are your strengths, what are you good at? Developing counterstatements requires you have some degree of belief in their veracity. Keep your counterstatements in the here-and-now, instead of saying “I’m not good enough” try saying, “I am capable. I’m good at ______. I accept myself the way I am.”
Thinking poorly about ourselves gets us nowhere and is extremely self-limiting. Decide today to turn off the negative self-talk channel in your mind and develop your true potential.
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